If you take the cup and then pour it over his head, then you are the one being rude. If you just refuse and put it down, you are just making clear that NO actually means NO and that you find the persistent attempt to force you to have a drink both rude and creepy.

freelancemaid:

lobbygrl:

lazypacific:

“Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says ‘Come on, one drink!’ You say ‘no thanks.’ Later, he brings you a soda. ‘I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.’ For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your ‘no.’ If you say ‘Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks’ and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.” —The Art of “No” (Jennifer P.)

I’ve never seen this post with the original caption before. I thought I loved it simply from the photography but the depth of the meaning behind it…. Wow.

Wow…..

Actually this is WRONG.

If you take the cup and then pour it over his head, then you are the one being rude. If you just refuse and put it down, you are just making clear that NO actually means NO and that you find the persistent attempt to force you to have a drink both rude and creepy.